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| POLL thread: was your childhood ruined by bad parenting? netskyIam 23 Aug 08 5:22PM | Thread Closed |
In my case, yes: my mother was inapt, incapable, unloving, frustrated.
In result, myself, an angel at heart, was formed defective and incapable of coping with close relationships for any length of time, sans one: the lover I've somehow kept for over 25 years.
POLL QUESTION: was your upbringing successful, loving parents, capable parents, healthy parents, stable home? Post your vote unlogged, anonymous.
I will log out and cast the first vote, and then log in again because I never otherwise would post unknown, that's just me.
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| re: POLL thread: was your childhood ruined by bad parenting? unknown 23 Aug 08 5:23PM | Thread Closed |
I did not receive good parenting
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| re: POLL thread: was your childhood ruined by bad parenting? unknown 23 Aug 08 5:43PM | Thread Closed |
my Mom was a musician so I was raised on the number 1 highway in Canada with some off roads to various B and C circuits when her band did not do so well -- as a result for most summers I lived in various dive hotels motels and suchlike cavorting with all sorts of folks -- during school times she would find a drunk client who looked like they were doing ok and convince them to take my brother and I on -- she paid them I think so I've had Boiler room bedrooms with suspicious sounds and damp basements and even a ritzy house or two -- she would sometimes show up for Christmas and I got to looking for creative outlets instead of just surviving all the time -- I ended up with a high IQ and low self esteem but that was grist for the mill as they say -- I've developed a very keen second sense with people and can with a look plumb into their not so hidden agendas -- most folks are folks after all but some have agendas that are self serving at best
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| re: POLL thread: was your childhood ruined by bad parenting? netskyIam 23 Aug 08 5:49PM | Thread Closed |
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But, was your childhood actually damaged? did your mother short change your life, after all?
I don't think any parents truly mean to destroy their child's future.
Circumstances conspire to make or break the child--and some children are remarkably resilient. However, our very first few years are so very vulnerable to irreparable damage. I read your post and conclude that your mother did the best she could, and she did just fine. Mine did the best she could, but she was not fine for this baby after all.
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| re: POLL thread: was your childhood ruined by bad parenting? unknown 23 Aug 08 6:11PM | Thread Closed |
well damaged what's that about? its a judgment really and it speaks too much of finality after all -- I say that we are given the lives we need to overcome in various ways we've been undone -- that being said I'm sure that radical forgiveness is the gurilla survival technique for the West and its off handed often selfish approach to child rearing -- the sword of Damocles hangs over each of us so we have to choose in the moment how we wanna live
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| re: POLL thread: was your childhood ruined by bad parenting? netskyIam 23 Aug 08 6:57PM | Thread Closed |
>well damaged what's that about?
Well damaged are the children who were not breast fed, were not held, were not told they were loved, were sidelined and scapegoated. They are the children, who, if they are blessed with normal brain chemistry, can survive well regardless. For those who tend to depression or have other mental weaknesses, well damaged is fatal to their having full and happy, normal lives.
This is a poll thread, not a thread for me or anyone to whine or whizz about.
I wonder, how many of the poets here feel that they got a fair shake as infants.
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| re: POLL thread: was your childhood ruined by bad parenting? unknown 23 Aug 08 7:25PM | Thread Closed |
well my head was crushed in two places with forceps tugging me out of a tired and afraid teenager who after 72 hours under a Solar Eclipse finally gave into the medication -- I was stuck -- she did not breast feed as she had the ideas the Hospital encouraged at the time -- she did her best and I did end up with brain chemistry issues which I do assuage with a chosen organic diet -- I am not crippled but I am blessed with the advantages of manifesting a life that I choose -- nevertheless my heart is on fire and my Lover is a mystery
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| re: POLL thread: was your childhood ruined by bad parenting? unknown 23 Aug 08 8:44PM | Thread Closed |
All this crap I've been hearing whenever I listen to a self improvement "guru" or an annoying New age clown whose out to take your money is this or another twisted version:
" Let your bad experiences in your life be a blessing to you! : - ) For they help make youa better person and gave you a meaningful lesson to which you can bring out your deepest compassion to the world."
hahahahahahaha :::laughs at all the Deepak Chopra, Tony Robbins and Chicken Soup for the Soul purchasers of the world:::
okay guys, I know I may sound silly and I probably won't get taken seriously by about a good portion of ppl reading this.
But what I say is true - True enlightenment as of right now is accepting your foolishness and being accountable for it. And knowing as of right now the society is being 99% foolish.
Why? Know Elohim and Brahma.
That's the answer to your problem and the rest of the world.
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| re: POLL thread: was your childhood ruined by bad parenting? netskyIam 23 Aug 08 9:18PM | Thread Closed |
^
If you above want to hijack and distort this thread, which is a poll thread, and turn it into a soapbox for your religious rants for or against this or that huckster,
well, you are just another huckster.
I hope to hear from poets here who can say they had a relatively good early childhood.
I don't suspect there are many of those, though. I suspicion that most of us here got shorted as infants, and that's one cause of "needing to write poetry".
This is not a thread about toughing it out. It's a POLL to learn who and who was not damaged during their first years.
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| re: POLL thread: was your childhood ruined by bad parenting? unknown 23 Aug 08 11:17PM | Thread Closed |
as an infant, i did not know my father. i lived my first year with three women: grandmother, aunt, mother, and myself.
suddenly, when i was one year and one week old, a man entered my life. and then, he ruled my life with an iron first and a back-hand made of lead.
i believe that i fear men because of this.
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